When we are going through a period of transition or uncertainty - whether that may be as a result of grief, depression, anxiety, moving between jobs - it can be confusing and uncomfortable. Today, I share with you 5 tools I use with parents and teens (and also for myself) to help them cope:
Releasing emotion: Taking the space and time to release an emotion (tears of sadness, anger, frustration, a feeling of guilt or shame, etc.) is important to do when it feels good to do so - even in the shower or at a time when you have space to yourself is incredibly-helpful. Feel free to practice the other ideas below if releasing emotion is something that you are finding difficult to do.
Breathwork: Practicing take deep heart or belly breaths of the best lengths (I suggest inhaling for 4 seconds through the nose, expanding the belly and then exhaling for 4 seconds through the mouth) and at important times regularly helps us process things physiologically. Also, I love body scans where we tune into where we are holding tension (for example, in the jaw, throat or stomach) and can release it - I recommend doing this when sitting up or laying down (especially before bed for deeper rest).
Journaling/writing/singing: Expressing through our written words in a blank or prompted journal or art (which I know children can enjoy immensely) or even using a tool such as singing to use the voice as an instrument and find a sense of comfort and joy is incredibly-powerful. I suggest purchasing a journal or finding a notepad that resonates with you visually and brings you a sense of comfort and joy :)
Essential oils: Frankincense (tree oil) and Balance blend are two oils I love to calm the mind and body through simply inhaling them or placing a drop (diluted with a carrier oil such as coconut, olive, jojoba, etc. or not) on the wrists, spine and bottoms of the feet; Console blend (already diluted in the Touch rollerball) with rose and sandalwood is a HUGE favorite of mine and others' on the wrists and heart for emotional connection and feelings relating to grief; Peace blend (already diluted in the Touch rollerball) with lavender and spearmint is lovely on the heart to calm the heart and promote deep breathing when thoughts and situations come up. Emotionally, floral, tree/wood and mint oils are helpful to feel calm, grounded and also more invigorated.
Visioning: It can be quite difficult to think about the future during a time of transition (and please do so when the time feels right), but having visual/written/phone reminders of the little things to do (just a few each day to keep it simple) can help us stay aligned with a daily routine and look at the bigger picture. Even something as simple as asking someone to come over to help us plan for the future can be all that we need.
Simply being observant of things, people, places, and thoughts that can be triggers is a really useful practice because there are times when it is helpful to work through them and times when we can use them to help move us forward - and that is where coaching can really help.
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Lastly, I also offer 30-minute guided meditation sessions virtually to help others release tension and stress in the body and feel more at peace (essential oils can be incorporated, as well). This can be done sitting up or laying down and I provide my soothing, guiding voice and beautiful music tailored to your needs to help you in the session and the future to practice connecting to yourself